MEN - The Invisible Victims
Say the term abuse, domestic violence or rape and of course most people will think of a female victim without hesitation, which of course is understandable, and rightly so.
In most traumatic or long term situations of that nature women victims are often the majority rather than the minority but that situation is not just totally exclusive to the female gender.
Men, tragically, are also the victims of abuse, both physically and emotionally, in just the same way as any woman but sadly for a number of reasons such cases are never reported which gives rise to people thinking that male victims of domestic violence, and even rape situations, are only 1 or 2 per cent in total but in reality this is far greater than many people first realise.
It is bad enough when a woman becomes the victim of a rape or a domestic violence situation but then in addition to that they also often end up finding themselves having to face the stigma of being blamed for getting themselves into such a situation in the first place - but men also will get the same problems in various other ways, and often from their fellow man.
Being told that they deserve what they get for not standing up for themselves and not being a man is a typical reaction from other men who, in almost all cases, have never experienced such a situation for themselves and would often additionally say that they would just simply walk away if all else fails and not be weak minded about it - but often such a situation is not that simple.
Take the scenario, for example, of a frail old man being looked after by his abusive teenage granddaughter or a drunken wife that he loves very much and does not want to abandon her due to her illness to drink or a young boy being sexually or physically abused by his own mother - do they deserve what they get for not being manly and not standing up for themselves? >>>
>>> In many situations, just like any female victim, walking away from such a situation is not always possible, more so, if they have nowhere to go to or an alternative place to stay.
Another factor to take into account is that men are taught at a very early age that it is wrong to hit a woman, and again rightly so, but this also becomes an additional problem when faced with a violent attack by a wife, girlfriend or even maybe your own mother and they find themselves unable, or not wanting, to hit back in defence of their own safety.
Mention the word rape and of course yet again women are the one's who we will think of first and foremost but men are also at risk of being raped by other men, and in some cases, by a group of men. But male rape simply does not end there. Male children, teenage lads and even old or vulnerable adults can be subject to such traumatic events both by strangers and even within their own family.
So those who say they deserve what they get for not being a man and standing up for themselves do need to realise that some situations are not that easy to deal with, and just like any woman, men also have feelings and can suffer not only just physical abuse but also emotional distress like any other human being.
Many men are ashamed when it comes to being a victim, as is often the case with women also, and they feel they cannot come forward and ask for help as a result. These unreported abuses makes some men the invisible victims that no one will ever hear about.
Not everyone can fight back or just simply walk away and always remember that anyone can be a victim at anytime regardless of age, location or gender so be aware - be aftershock aware!